It's that time again, drama!

“It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for what you are not.”
― André Gide, Autumn Leaves

 

My close friend, Minnie, has been struggling with her relationship lately. I have dated a few toads in my day, yet I'm fortunate to be happily married and I think she compares herself to Sam and I, at times. Minnie is with a 35 year old man who refuses to grow up. I like him well enough, he's nice has so much potential, but Minnie is getting tired of his "Mama's Boy" ways.

For one, Minnie's boyfriend has a son from a previous relationship. She didn't know until their 3rd date, and she decided to break her rule and continue seeing him. Minnie has to deal with his ex-wife being somewhat involved in their love life, for the sake of their son. Also, there's the nagging fact that he was already married and rejected by another woman who could apparently not, "change him".

I'm not sure if it's possible to change a man, but I'm trying to be supportive. Part of me wants her to kick him to the curb, but I shall keep my opinions to myself until she asks for them. Even then, if I trash this guy to her and they stay together (or break up and then hook up again) I'm forever the friend who put him down.

What to do?